In my Humble Opinion
No one really cares about you. It’s something no one will tell you. Something you really have to experience yourself. You can only do so if you keep your mind and heart open.
“No kind of love is selfless. Everyone is getting something off of it. A mother’s love is touted to be the purest. But mothers are just people. People with flaws, more often than not. Yes the process of motherhood is very daunting and difficult. It still doesn’t guarantee that they will love the outcome, for life. Initially yes, for life, may be not.”
Imagine yourself doing a project which takes away nine months of your life. You do it with a small team but you’re the project lead. It gives you sleepless nights, sickness, it start affecting how you look and feel; but the outcome keeps you going. The perseverance, the will to make it see the light of the day. Is there any guarantee that you’ll love the outcome, for life?
Then one thinks of friends. They care because you care. Quid pro quo. They need company and you do too. It’s okay to have this transactional relation and call it what it is. You won’t even think about it until they get married and inadvertently start choosing their partner and kids over you, almost always. There will be an imbalance, unless you start keeping up with them and find a partner and ensure you have something called “unhappiness guaranteed”. Getting married to keep up with others or because you are bored is something, almost no rational person will advise. So do think and always know your “whys”.
Also these so called partners, famous for being there for you forever, are a bait. A bait to a seemingly secure life which is full of dread and drudgery. It’s a life you’d want to end pretty fast. Ask those blatantly honest married people and you may be able to fact check this.
Marriages are mostly unhappy because they are a legal contract and let me tell you that if you need a legal document to bind two people, that shit ain’t natural. If you need social acceptance to date someone, that also is pretty disturbing. And to love you don’t have to domesticate, relocate, create evidences of love; to love you just have to love. Feel the love and maybe express it, not cling.
I am aware that this thought is alien to most and love is a drug to be had more and more often. There are so many people in the world, most of us don’t like others or themselves; now think, do we want more of us or more of nature on this planet?
The world is beyond just us. We are insignificant. Save this beautiful planet. Think twice before procreating.
